I’ve often joked about how many times I’ve been kissed and lied to. Here are a few of the better ones by approximate order of appearance:

  • The so ’50s, ‘You’re lazy, stupid, and worthless’ accusation (parents)
  • The so ’60s, ‘You’re never going to amount to anything’ accusation (family, community)
  • ’60’s- ’70s, ‘Drugs will set you free’ conjecture (dead friends, culture)
  • Your friends will come and go but your family is there forever (family)
  • More counterculture hogwash, Poverty was liberating (culture)
  • To be a professional you need to be a doctor, lawyer or dentist (student counselors) Major uninformed A-holes.
  • Rock and roll was going to change the world (culture)
  • The Vietnam War was all about democracy – “Sometimes you have to destroy a village [physically] to save it [morally]” (General Westmoreland)
  • [Politely paraphrased] ‘I am going to be more successful than you’ (D. Kuthy, D. Gaye)
  • Chief engineer [1979] told me, ‘You don’t need an engineering degree to succeed’ – he liked my work and he liked me just where I was; working for him (M. Butler)
  • A senior Intel manager told me at the last minute [as an explanation for withdrawing his support during one of my most major project rollouts to date], “I can’t support you because you’re going to fail” (A. Rodriguez)
  • ‘Finish up the Asian WAN rollout and I’ll get you that promotion’ (B. Licht)
  • ‘We are going to appeal [secretly knowing full well at that moment that all future appeals had been denied in the first ruling]…so you’ll get your $40K’ [in back pay, plus a bonus for all your hard work] (TecSec)

All lies.

PS – The best revenge is a thoughtful and meditative life well lived.


  1. ‘Lazy, stupid, and worthless’ was a typical lower-class putdown from that era.
  2. Ditto, ‘You’re never going to amount to anything’.
  3. Drugs. Smart? Cool? I’ve got lots of dead childhood friends to suggest otherwise.
  4. Yeah, Ma. In a good way or a bad way?
  5. Poverty as sold by writer’s and musicians of that era was just so much romanticized poppycock. John Lennon bought a Ferrari in ’66 although he didn’t publicly talk about it at the time. ‘I’ve got you babe’. And you all sure did.
  6. Rock and Roll was always about the money.
  7. I was marginally draft age at the time but I think Westmoreland’s quote pretty much sums up the idiocy of Vietnam.
  8. D. Kuthy, one of my early college peers is now a bankrupt attorney. D. Gaye, shortly after having made a putdown of such monstrous proportions – like you’re a loser and I am going to be rich  – and said that to my face mind you. I didn’t even break a smile when shortly thereafter he lost his entire real estate empire.
  9. 3 years later upon getting my BSEE, M. Butler and ended up working as peers on a project together. He certainly didn’t like that.
  10. The project was a tremendous success although Rodriguez later tried to save face by shitting all over my accomplishment by telling everyone ‘He was lucky’. Less than a year after that incident, A. Rodriguez was let go from Intel. In Intel speak, ‘sent down to the redeployment pool’, aka cut loose. I can only conjecture that his bosses weren’t all that impressed with his management skills. I however stuck it out another 6 years at Intel before I resigned.
  11. B. Licht, just like A. Rodriguez and so many other managers were operationally speaking, first and foremost political opportunists. This kind of explains why I don’t – as a general rule – like managers. I personally never wanted to be a manager of people because at heart, I am not a political animal. (I did manage projects though…)
  12. TecSec. Seriously duplicitous lying f**ks. Still owe me $40K. That’s forty-thousand US dollars.